How to Trust the Universe Has Your Back… even when doubt, fear and pressure shows up

 In Self Trust

I wrote this blog and video for you from Gibsons, British Columbia, after a week full of travel across the U.S. and then across borders that has caused my self-trust muscles to have to flex big time… where am I going to stay? How am I going to get there? How will this all work?

And even though I have tons of faith and lots of self-confidence, the truth is, self-doubt shot through my mind on several occasions with thoughts like “Is this really going to work out?”, old habits got activated, you know like trying to control it all, and old thought patterns went into high gear, like “I have to take care of it all or it’s going to fall apart.”

And so of course you know what started to happen, I started to see all the ways in which I wasn’t supported. The ways I had to be responsible for it all. And the stress started to make its way in.

Maybe you can relate?

When doubt surfaces, we see all the ways we aren’t supported, and we feel like it’s all on our shoulders. Which isn’t self-loving. Is totally exhausting. And really sells the Divine short.

Fortunately, you don’t have to succumb to the doubt, or feed the fear. You don’t have to take it all on your own shoulders and create stress. You have another choice…

Trust the Divine to be the orchestra leader, listen to your inner wisdom and do YOUR part (not everyone else’s), and trust that it will all be taken care of.

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How do you do that?

Watch this week’s love letter and I’ll share how to trust that the universe has your back… and only do what’s yours to do.

 

1. SURRENDER… RELINQUISH CONTROL – stop trying to control it all yourself and give it up to God.

2. SLOW DOWN & LISTEN –– don’t run around like a crazy energizer bunny or let your mind go batty, slow down, tune in and let your inner wisdom guide you.

3. DO YOUR PART and ONLY YOUR PART
— Take action on what is yours to do and let the universe do the rest.

Noah even got in on the action – you are not going to believe what happened to us yesterday as we decided to transform doubt into Divine service… and as a result, the special gift Noah received from 25 young women (he’s blushing!!)

After you watch the video… share with me where in your life you’ve been taking it on yourself and not trusting the universe and what you are now inspired to shift… so you can trust the universe has your back.

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If you want to strengthen this branch ofย  Self-Trust,ย  you can join us for our Self Love Foundations class which gives you wisdom and practices for strengthening all 10 branches of self-love. We affectionately call this โ€œThe Love Clubโ€ where each month you focus on one area of self love. To learn more go to The Love Club.

 

 

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  • sandy
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    Hi
    Really looking forward to this video only there is no sound so does not make any sense.
    Any chance of sorting it out?
    Sandy

    • carylo17
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      HI Sandy – just give it a second and the sound comes on – or check your volume – its working for me ๐Ÿ™‚ much love to you xoxo

  • Tammy (writingmywaytome.wordpress.com)
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    Amazing post!! Will be listening to this at least a bajillion more times because I am FAMOUS for doing EVERYONE else’s part. Such a relief to know I don’t have to do that. Thanksthanksthanksthanks.<3
    Blessings,
    Tammy

    • carylo17
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      Tammy – YES YES YES! to creating the space for everyone to step in and do their part so you can have more space to enjoy you and your life!

  • paula
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    Aaw, such a sweet video. I loved this and thank the Universe for sending us girl scouts and scary guys and Christine and Noah and bus drivers….I’m taking off for a short trip later this week (to the Ukraine) and will surround my self with thoughts of doing my part (leaving happiness wherever I go–trusting that I’m supported, and enjoying not being in control.) I am also trusting that my business will be supported during my absence so I can feel free to travel more!

    • carylo17
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      Paula – sending you blessings on your trip! and witnessing your trust to be supported!! xo Christine

  • Linda Graziano
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    I love that you trusted and loved in an uncertain situation! Thanks for sharing! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Yvette
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    Perceived lack of support had been really affecting me over the last few weeks if I’m honest. Themes about mortality, health, trying desperately to control these things, not feeling like I can trust, that I am healthy, that I will be healthy. I woke up this morning at 2:45am and just poured into my journal insight after insight. I got up to check my email and found this. I feel so very grateful. Thank you. Thank you. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • carylo17
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      Glad to be there Yvette ! keep pouring out the fear, pouring in the love and insight and trusting the universe has got your back. xoxo Christine

  • Dorothy
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    Hi Christine & Noah,
    I loved this post!!! Thank you, for trusting in your intuition and right action. I am so glad you were on the right bus. Well done!
    Continued success on your journey.
    Many blessings and love,
    Dorothy

    • carylo17
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      thank you dorothy! sending you much love xoxo Christine and Noah

  • Sarah
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    Dear Christine and Noah,

    Thankyou from the bottom of my heart for this video.
    I have met someone amazing while travelling after praying to divinely led and guided.
    However I have got the speed wobbles and my old fears came back because I cannot see what will happen next or how it will all work out.
    So now I realise that I need to just do my part and let the universe do the rest because that is how we got to meet in the first place.
    With gratitude and love,
    Sarah

    • carylo17
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      Sarah seeing you do your part and in that more trust and love coming in – thank you for sharing your truth and for leaning into love even when its scary xoxo Christine

  • RosaLinda
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    Thank you sooo much for putting TRUST into such clear and simple terms. I totally struggle with this. But I am being opened up to surrendering struggle and opening myself to trust. You are the bestest, Christine and Noah : ) Muche light and love on your self love tour.

    • carylo17
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      Love received RosaLinda!! Trust in your power, beauty and deep connection to the divine – it and you are eternal love. xoxo Christine

  • liz
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    Thank you thank you both – divine timing, as often is the case – Blessings and I surrender ๐Ÿ™‚

    • carylo17
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      You surrender is witnessed liz! xoxo Christine

  • Carol Romero
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    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! LOVE LOVE LOVE your video! I have, and every day read, your Madly in Love with Me book, so this was very special to see and hear you “in action”!
    The timing of this could not be better for me as I am in the process of leaving everything I know and have done my entire life (in CT) to relocate to CA for a year or so to be a Grammie/Nanny for my 3 month old Grandson! I need an apartment, furnishings, money, new friends!! I definitely succumb to Fear and Self-Doubt, and need this reminder to Trust the Universe!!! I believe this truth, yet have human difficulty in always LIVING it! Your message is more than a reminder – it is an action step – only do my part!! Let the Universe do its all-powerful, all-encompassing part! Yea! Thank You Christine and Noah!! Love, love, love

    • carylo17
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      Carol – seeing the universe carry you to CA knwoing you are moving in love and you will be supported. Fear and doubt normal – i have it too! thats why we have to keep reminding each other of the truth – love wins, the the universe has our back when we move in the flow of love. xoxo Christine

  • Sarah
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    I fricken LOVE YOU Christine ๐Ÿ™‚ So inspired and I lOVE Noah too! There was a part of me that thought, Oh, Noah, the big man stepping in for the little women. Then I really heard you all talking about how you were trusting your inner guidance. I SO open to living my life with a beloved partner who listens to and trusts his inner guidance like I trust mine!

    Love, Sarah

    • carylo17
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      Sarah, thank you for sharing and YES! my super woman wanted to go over and clock the guy and push him off the bus, but i had to do MY part, and Noah his. I was fierce with the bus driver so there was no stopping the universe from doing its job! Seeing you opening to your beloved partner even more. xoxo Christine

  • Naomi
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    You are just the cutest couple EVER! Love you guys!

    • carylo17
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      xoxo and big smooch back to you Naomi! xoxo Christine and Noah

  • Fran Feighery
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    Christine, great video on self-trust doing 3 things based on trusting the Universe and my self. Your experience on the bus was a great example of how to do this.
    Thanks to you and Noah.

    • carylo17
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      Fran – happy to share. Thanks for listening. Keep leaning into the universe. its there for you. xox Christine

  • Leigh
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    Thank you so much Christine and Noah!! You did your part by sending this wonderful video out and I am doing mine by taking it in and making these ideas part of me. There is a situation in my life where I have been doing everyone’s part for a very long time, and it has caused me a lot of pain over the years. Not until right now did I see and allow myself to know that the pain has been because I didn’t let everyone (or anyone) else do their part. I am taking this in and sitting with it. I can feel my cells shifting to see and allow myself to do just my part and to let everyone else do theirs. I know that this situation is already shifting for the better and evolving toward a peaceful and joyful resolution. Thank you both so very much.

    • carylo17
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      Leigh – from our hearts to yours, your welcome — and knowing and seeing that this stand to just do your part is creating more love and peace in your life. xo
      Christine and Noah

  • Kim
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    Great message for control folks (as opposed to freks=negative spin) like me! “I surrender what is not mine to do and ask to be shown my part.” Thank you so much Christine!

    And who is cuter than Noah? Adorable!
    Surrendering, asking, trusting…
    Kim

  • Kim
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    Oops – make that:

    Great message for control folks (as opposed to freaks=negative spin) like me! โ€œI surrender what is not mine to do and ask to be shown my part.โ€ Thank you so much Christine!

    And who is cuter than Noah? Adorable!
    Surrendering, asking, trustingโ€ฆ
    Kim

    • carylo17
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      LOL kim – Noah giggled ๐Ÿ™‚ Yes to doing your part, and letting the universe guide the way. big love, christine

  • Fran Feighery
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    I am happy to tell you that the Universe had my back when I decided to build the house of my dreams. No one in my family had ever built a house of their own design but I struggled through alone with a very good builder who worked with me and I am now living happily and comfortably in my “English Cottage”.

    • carylo17
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      Love imagining you Fran in your cottage and love that the universe sent you a great builder – the universe does that right gives us what we need? xoxo Christine

  • Constance Rodrigue
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    Loved the story. My knee-jerk reaction would be to go back there and FIX IT! Which would undoubtedly have involved a certain amount of destabilising interaction with something truly NASTY. I am not a hero: please allow me to remember the BUS DRIVER (not to mention the universe).

    • carylo17
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      A big yes to remember we don’t have to do it all and be the hero. xoxo Christine

  • Meg
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    Wow!!! I totally needed to hear this today! This video actually brought a tear to my eye and I felt a HUGE sense of relief….BIG siiiiighhhhh…. that I do not need to be in control in my current situation. Let go and trust that the universe & God have my back ๐Ÿ™‚
    THANK YOU! xoxox

    • carylo17
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      Meg – AHHHHHH – yes that sigh is the release!! way to surrender — now let the love flow in sweetheart. xoxo Christine

  • Sami
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    This is exactly what I needed to hear! As the classic over-achieving, over-mothering,and over-doing single mom “just do my part” hit every intuitive fiber in my being. Now to figure out, or rather let the Divine show me, what my part is:) thank you!

    • carylo17
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      Sami – love seeing you setting down the over responsibility for the freedom to just do your part, knowing that and you are enough. with heart, Christine

  • Shana
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    I needed to hear this so much today, so glad I accidentally landed on this page! Thank you!

    • carylo17
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      Shana – Welcome!! and love that the universe delivered you to the post on it having your back. sending you much love.

  • Lashpal
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    Thank you so much for this vdo as really i take all on my shoulders and after watching it, prayer Him to guide me what is my part in finding my right career and stop doing my analizing part or anything which is not my part. Thank you again from my heart.

    • carylo17
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      My heart receiving and giving your heart a BIG HUG for your willinginess to trust the universe to have your back! xo Christine

  • Steph
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    As it always is, exact right words at the exact right time! I really enjoyed the story of the bus, as a metaphor always makes it more relatable! When you said the word, “Surrender” I immediately started crying and felt a huge weight lifted!
    Thank you so much for the love and support! XO Steph

    • carylo17
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      Steph – i love the way that surrender feels… relief! Let those tears flow and let the love in! xoxo Christine

  • Colleen
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    Thank you for the video. I sooooo needed that this morning. I am trying to get my 22yr old son to go to rehab and feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. After seeing your video, I know I have done my part and will trust that the universe will take care of the rest. Thank you and Noah both for the exact message I needed to feel some relief ๐Ÿ™‚

    • carylo17
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      Colleen – thank you for giving your son love and letting the universe take the burden. big xo Christine

  • Tunde
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    Synchronicity guided me to this page while surfing the net as I have been having major doubts about trusting the Universe with some major worries that are making me very ill. I loved the video which actually made me cry because of the love and message it contained and the pressure it released within. I can’t thank you enough. The Universe is indeed wonderful Tunde xo

    • carylo17
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      Trude – so happy you found the video and us! may your heart feel how much love is here for you in this world. xoxoxo

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