You Are Doing & Achieving Alot! Do This Self Love Practice So You Believe it!

 In Self Worth

This morning I awoke with the sun beaming into my bed, the water of Bainbridge Island glistening out my window, and a sense of accomplishment – and it felt so good! After two weeks in Canada and an mini-retreat yesterday, and this four month Team Love Tour, which ends next Sunday in Seattle, I am activating one of my self-love habits that has done wonders for my old achievement junkie habits, and self-care killers.

And I am inviting you to watch this Love Letter to join me. This love letter is all about you really feeling your self-worth.

The benefit — you’ll feel better, gain power to give yourself a break, and most of all, really SEE yourself for the brilliant being you are.

Sound good? It is.. Powerful self love!

Read on…

Here’s a self love truth.

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You have already accomplished A LOT, really. I know that just in the past week or month, that you have achieved a whole handful of things that you haven’t stopped to really RECEIVE.

And when you don’t stop to receive, acknowledge and FEEL what has occurred,
what you have created, caused or experienced, it’s like it never happened.

So you never feel like enough, like you are doing enough, or like your dreams are happening.

I’ll never forget when I learned this lesson (thanks to my friend visionary artist Shiloh Sophia McCloud who inspires me to love myself all the time) – it changed my life, my relationship to success, and it gave me the power to slow down and feel GOOD about it.

Watch this weeks love letter where I share a simple but mighty process that will get you really FEELING all that you have done and accomplished, so you can give yourself a break + really FEEL how much you matter, and enough you are.

AND THEN TAKE ACTION RIGHT HERE ON THIS SELF LOVE BLOG…

  • NAME WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED... right here in public so I can, we can witness it, and it will be MORE TRUE.

AND THEN TODAY IN YOUR LIFE…

  • CLAIM IT SO YOU CAN FEEL IT… See and state the IMPACT of what you have done and how it has affected YOU and the PEOPLE its touched …
  • OPEN YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE IT... Really give yourself time and space – a day at least to really let this come into your heart!

 

 

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If you want to strengthen your inner foundation and ability to love yourself in practical ways that impact every area of your life, join us for our Self Love Foundations class. It teaches you wisdom and practices for strengthening all 10 branches of self-love. We affectionately call this “The Love Club” where each month you focus on strengthening one area of self-love. To learn more go to The Love Club

 

 

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  • Lyds
    Reply

    When I was younger, I had severe OCD and eating disorders and every day I am moving away from that. A few years ago, I went on a transformative journey living in a community and facing/ challenging myself day, by day, by day until now when I officially wave goodbye to the support of that place, though I no longer live there, and embrace my future free from all the hellish fences that I’d built up around myself and within my feelings. I find myself looking for what I’m going to do next when actually this should be a time of celebration!! I have a beautiful boyfriend who loves me, a life, career prospects doing what I enjoy, and now eat well and am not haunted by own pressing self-judgement so much! I have fought to the life and shall continue pressing through any barriers that stand between myself and my freer self (cos that’s what life’s all about, right?! 😉 and shall CELEBRATE this amazing journey that I’ve been on this far!
    Namaste

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Namaste at your beautiful you and powerful journey. with heart, christine

  • Genevieve
    Reply

    Hi Christine!

    I met you in Vancouver – I was the lovely lady with the desire to have community. Well GUESS WHAT!? I won two free trips this past week – one to Whistler for a dance and movement conference and one to Miami for leadership training. As part of the deal I will be mentored to create (wait for it….) A COMMUNITY PROJECT over the next year with about 50 women!! This is a big reason to celebrate! Thanks for sharing your love! You are an inspiration!!

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Genevieve – yes yes i remember you!!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you are receiving what you asked for – keep receiving love! xoxo Christine

  • Colleen
    Reply

    YAY! This letter from Christine arrived just in time. I just got notified that I successfully completed a course. I WLL take time off to play now before working on the next step in my plan…. Cordially, Colleen

    • carylo17
      Reply

      YES! To letting it soak in Colleen – great work indeeed.xoxoo Christine

  • Issa Eugenia
    Reply

    Thank you so much for these awesome Self-Love Letters! They really make Sundays all the more brighter- especially as I am gearing up for yet another week of splendid accomplishments!

    Accomplishments-
    I am thrilled that I have begun my journey as an artist officially. I have also networked and connected with potential mentors and collaborators this past week. All of this has brought about a refreshed confidence in my support system. Now, I have greater options in how to pursue my creative dreams with camaraderie and shared interests. Time to show the world my •ART!

    • carylo17
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      Issa – your welcome!! and love seeing you name and claim what you are up to creating in the world for you and it. xoxo Christine

  • m
    Reply

    Took a chance on and bought my own house almost 3 years ago. Renovated the kitchen, last year. Recognized why my 2nd marriage failed and forgave my ex and myself. Made peace with and forgave my first husband and we are now dating! Forgave my abuser. Opened another studio/gallery this year. Now creating new art using multi-media. Taking time for myself when needed. Being able to share my negative emotions as well as positive. Using healthy boundaries in my life. Created new clients for my graphics business this year. Allow myself to feel my emotions after 30 years of stuffing them and being numb. WOW! I’ve done a lot of work in the past 3 years. Thanks Christine, for suggesting I write it down! WOOHOO!

    • carylo17
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      I’ll say – you have created a lot, released a lot and wow loved alot. thank you M for loving yourself and being a light in the world xoox Christine

  • Abi
    Reply

    Unfortunately my first generation ipad wouldnt allow me to see the video, but just thinking about what you wrote definitely rang bells with me! Rather than wishing someone else would notice and appreciate what I have done or achieved or coped with,I am reminded that it would be better all round the more I could do that for myself . The old programming still has its effect of belittling , discounting but as I am able to give positive feedback to friends ,I can practise doing the same for myself even if it feels awkward or artificial to begin with….

    • carylo17
      Reply

      EXACTLY!!!! yes yes yes to giving yourself recognition and really FEELING it – keep growing the self love, it and you are beautiful! xo Christine

  • Jennifer Walden
    Reply

    Dear, Dear Christine,
    Thank you so much for your very precious wisdom and love!!! I have been meaning to acknowledge this since your “I am doing something, I am relaxing!” video which helped me immensely. I also was very moved by the miraculous Light that came pouring down on your Easter weekend video in Brooklyn. The vision of this Light keeps coming into my mind. I also find today’s invitation: to claim, name, and really feel my achievements so empowering, plus it just feels so good! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! Sending you tons of appreciation and Love!
    Jennifer

    • carylo17
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      Jennifer -appreciation received!! thank you! thank you! yes, that light was WOW! divine… and YES to claiming, naming and feeling the achievements. Doing the same here now on the West Coast! xoxo CHristine

  • Maria Puerta
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    I have accomplished 4 weeks of 2 hours vipassana meditation daily and counting…
    I lead my first workshop last weekend with awesome success.
    I keep working hard in my self awakening, breaking the limits of fear and stretching, lovingly, patiently, persistently…
    Thanks so much for this letter Christine, it was so much needed.
    Love
    Maria

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Maria – seeing how much love you are pouring into YOU and your work and the world! And that matters, big time! xoxo Christine

  • Lynn Constantine
    Reply

    I gave myself the gifts of time and renewal by attending your Madly in Love With Me workshop in Seattle yesterday….and made some fabulous new connections as well.

    Thank you, Christine, for your inspiring and loving spirit….and for sharing your message of love with the world!

    Namaste….
    Lynn

    • carylo17
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      LOVED having you at the event – and LOVE that the event was part of you giving to YOU! thank you Lynn. xoxo Christine

  • Patricia Thompson
    Reply

    I just came off of a healing weekend retreat and I am claiming a new awareness of being able to own and sit in my disappointment and love myself anyway – talk to myself like I was talking to my dearest friend and helping her through this not so feel good emotion. I am claiming a new gentler more loving way I speak to myself. I celebrate this new awareness and self talk.

    • carylo17
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      THIS IS A GREAT thing to celebrate -the love, compassion, for yourself – loving that you are valuing that so deeply! xoxo Christine

  • Lisa
    Reply

    I am in the midst of recreating my entire self as I change midlife gears from giving “free” service to my family and community into giving (and receiving money!)through my powerful passion fueled business in service to the greater good of a greater society. This is hard work, to change myself like this, but I have already accomplished a LOT within my commitment to this task. I am challenged, but it’s a gooood challenge. Blessed Be!

    • carylo17
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      Lisa – blessed be indeed! i see the wires inside you shifting to be both a giver and a receiver. yes!! xo Christine

  • MJ
    Reply

    Thank you, Christina, for sharing your wisdom and travels.
    I’m quite a bit older than you & appreciate the reminders
    you share. Today’s video message to appreciate all that
    has led me to this place, without further grasping, is
    exactly what I’ve been working on. Thank you again.

    • carylo17
      Reply

      MJ – thank you for adding the word grasping to the dialogue – that is what we do when we are over doing and not seeing our impact on the world. love and appreicate you and your wisdom! xox Christine

  • devi
    Reply

    I have worked hard to complete my mba and make a career on my own abilities.

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Devi – seeing you taking that accomplishment in and letting it be enough – what else is wanting your love and attention that your mba and career can support? xo Christine

  • Andria
    Reply

    Today, I have revised 3 pages and wrote 4 more (didn’t realize how much I’d done until I went back and counted). AND I figured out an important part of a character’s story. I also wrote 13 minutes of my 45 minute lecture and started to create my PowerPoint (this is, I think, my fourth brand new draft of this lecture). So, yeah, I guess I got quite a bit done. Thank you for asking me to stop and look and see what I have done.

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Uh yeah! Lots done. Rest, relax and play now! xoxo Christine

  • sofia
    Reply

    i love you! we are totally aligned. i came to maui sept 2012 because i was totally burnt out by raising my two lovely children alone for 9 years and selling a house, and building house and building a very succesful psychotherapy practice with waaaaay too many patients (of course). my sister said when i was 20 “you work fulltime, you go to college at night, you have serious bf and you made everyone terrariums for xmas?” i laid on the beach every day for 8 months and did not work. i have two speeds….on and off. well, after going thru a chunk of my retirement i went back home but did not change a damn thing. fast forward today. i came to maui in dec/jan and then march 12-april 4. well, i am still here. one month at a time i have decided not to go back. all sorts of amazing miracles are happening daily. i am taking energy classes to learn how to channel light to dissolve spiritual clouds that cause inflammation that cause illness. my mind is a sponge and i am reading, researching, and experimenting with all sorts of cutting edge techniques. very exciting. today with my “beach family” i decided to write a 10 minute stand up routine and perform at amateur comedy night here in maui. doesn’t get much better than this baby! thanks for all your encouragement and being my cheerleader for extreme self care!!!!

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Sofia – smiling here as i sit on teh shores of the Puget Sound – learning to downshift, not just have an off on button either. Big hugs sister! xo Christine

  • Alexis Young
    Reply

    I recently won Quarterly Impact Player for my region, which was a big accomplishment for me since I took on this role 9 months ago with a bit of fear. I have turned the office around from a compliance standpoint, and I have created a power team. I received this award and forgot about it within hours as I focused on my next achievement, but I’m committed to taking it in today. Thanks for sharing Christine!

    • carylo17
      Reply

      YAY! Put that certificate up on your bathroom mirror and reflect it in , feel it before doing another achievement! xoxo Christine

  • l,w
    Reply

    I have ran a 5k every monday for 2 months so that is my only accomplishment right now.

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Love the recognition of the race, and I am knowing that if you are living and breathing then you have accomplished much more – just look at how you have impacted the people around you. look deeper. xo christine

  • Here's how screwed up I am
    Reply

    I am in my 27th year of being clean and sober and I have NEVER done the positive side of the 4th step. I assume that since you live in California the 12 steps are the first things you learn in life – even before arithmetic. I find it hard to enjoy what I’m doing while I’m doing it, or seeing it, hearing it – whatever. I feel PUSHED because I’m behind on everything – lots of 1/2 finished projects – haven’t done my bank accounts since January (or perhaps December) – I have too many thngs I SHOULD BE DOING not to mention the the feel-good ME projects (making stuff, including cooking) and with all the work I’ve done on myself over the past 26+ years I feel as if I don’t have the foggiest idea of who I am or even what I WANT! Here’s the good part: I appreciate what I already have – where I live, my friends, new authors I discover, new films (“Quartet”!!!!!!), my husband who is 88 and drives me (69) crazy but he’s the love of my life and NOT least, my dog Mungo, a Bearded Collie. Am amazingly poor and if I let myself worry about what will happen if my husband dies before I do, or if I get so scatty that someone has to take care of me I get down – but I have ENOUGH! Wish with all my heart that I had some English-speaking friends around here (Paimpol, France) but make do with the net & telephone. Constance Rodrigue, Paimpol, France

    • carylo17
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      Constance – knowing that you are NOT screwed up but in the process of being and becoming enough within yourself — keep leaning into and sinkinig into all that you have done and become and let go of the rest. and then ask your inner wisdom, what one action do i need to take to care for myself today? ask yourself that every day for 40 days and see what happens! big heart, Christine

  • Ngan
    Reply

    Ahh it’s so refreshing to see you so enthusiastic about this. And I love the way speak to us/viewers from your core, your heart and simple. I felt like you speak directly to each of us. Thank you for this wonderful message!!

    I’m celebrating that I emailed my boss/team this morning and let them know that I’m taking the day off as a personal day to replenish myself. Usually I’d would rethink about what I did but today after sending the email I felt at peace with my decision. Yesterday I overworked myself at home and ended up feeling so exhausted and painful.

    I’m also celebrating the fact that I respect myself and my decisions/choices, whether others like it or not.

    Ngan

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Ngan – LOVE witnessing your choice to give yourself what you need – see old habits – love yourself through them – and keep respecting YOU! xoxo Christine

  • nancy
    Reply

    I am definitely entering at least a week of self-love and appreciation for finally tapping into my inner wisdom and taking the step of resigning from my job. I have been in a lot of emotional and physical pain for years, but I have learned to listen to it’s lessons for me, trust myself and honour my Divine wisdom. I told my husband that I want his blessing and I took the step I needed to take. I really now want to take care of myself as I build myself back up from years of feeling unworthy and not enough! xo

    • carylo17
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      Nancy – Witnessing your stand for SELF LOVE and for really listening to your innner wisdom – knowing that you will be cared for on all levels as you care for yourself even more. big heart christine

  • Laurel
    Reply

    Thanks Christine. My accomplishment recently is that I forgave my ex-husband. I was angry for a long time and knew I needed to forgive him in order to move ahead but didn’t know how. I finally did it and it feels so good. I need to celebrate it. It’s a big accomplishment.

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Laurel that is a HUGE accomplishment and thank you for presencing that forgiveness is a huge achievement! xoxo Christine

  • Catie
    Reply

    I never considered myself an achievement junkie but now that I look back and look at how I see things now, I realize that I get anxious for the next accomplishment.
    I came to school in Hawaii, a place I always wanted to study, and at the beginning of the semester I thought “this is great, now I want to go to London!” and I immediately started looking into abroad programs a week after arrival. After being marooned here on this island for about 3 months, away from friends and family, I am excited to return home for the summer, but I don’t think I have soaked in this atmosphere as much as I could. My goal was to have the experience of living in Hawaii and so far I have just been staying here and not actually “living”. Thank you for this video, hopefully I can appreciate my surroundings and this goal I achieved before the summer comes along. <3

    • carylo17
      Reply

      YES! Catie to actually FEELING the experience before moving onto what is next – i love the awareness you had and knowing that you are already shifting because of it. xoxo Christine

  • Lainna
    Reply

    Goodness! You are soooooo right! I’ve been onto my next “to-do” to launch my new website, I haven’t taken the time to celebrate that I’ve actually gotten the site built, I’ve created several killer posts, and, now that I think about it, my gift offer idea is pretty brilliant. Thank you for the reminder to give myself a little credit before leaping onto the next task. I love you!

    • carylo17
      Reply

      Lainna – LOVING that you are LOVING you by acknowledging all you have already created! xoxo Christine

  • Yvette
    Reply

    Today, I told someone something that I felt very embarrassed about, something that I felt very insifficient about. Not only did I say it, I told it to someone I REALLY admire. I noticed and felt relief that the world didn’t end, I cried for the past hurt that bubbled up, and I had the courage to write this.

    • carylo17
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      Yvette – witnessing your courage here and your stand for LOVE! way to lean into love. xo christine

  • Teresa
    Reply

    This week I developed two recipes that I am really proud of for my business blog. I am also doing a 10 day Vegetables with Breakfast Challenge on that same blog and have heard back from several people who are inspired and noticing they feel better. It feels great to create something and put it out into the world. I have had to transform a lot of fear to get this far.
    Thank you for being such an expressive presence in the world Christine!

    • carylo17
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      Teresa- LOVE seeing you celebrate all that you have already achieved! you have done alot and it matters! xoxo Christine

  • Alisa
    Reply

    In 2007, I made my first trip to the Pacific Northwest for a friend’s wedding. Something about this place inspired me to move here after I finished grad school in Illinois. Four years later, without a job or permanent place to live, I moved to Seattle. After about nine months of volunteering in the Seattle area, bartering help for food and shelter, and many interviews and job applications, I started working in my chosen field. Every day I am experiencing the dream I saw for myself of living and working in the Pacific Northwest. Pretty cool. I’ve met some great people and have been the benefactor of the kindness of “strangers.” I’ve also met some not so nice people who tend to make me forget about the amazing gift I have received. And, I am working on not feeling guilty for living this gift. I tend to move on to the next thing, as a way of not getting attached to what I have accomplished, and perhaps as a sign of shame for . But this movement, only makes me forget who I am.

    Thank you Christine for reminding us that it is OK to sit inside our joy. This reminder aids me in difficult times to remember that countless times before this moment that I demonstrated that I am enough.

    • carylo17
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      Alisa – SO love that you are choosing LOVE instead of shame or guilt to RECEIVE what you have created for yourself, which of course is a divine expression of love, and that can only be good! Plus the Pac NW, OMG soooo beautiful. i am in love with it! xoxo Christine

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