Self Love Blog: How to Ask For What You Need Without Feeling Guilty or Like a Jerk
How do you get what you need when you also are taking care of others and what they need?
Watch this self-love letter and find out how.
When we are over-focused on taking care of others who need our support or when we are afraid of what people’s reactions will be if we ask for support too… it can be REALLY hard to ask for what YOU need…
And if you don’t ask for what you need, you don’t get what you need. And if you don’t get what you need, you suffer.
In your life, there are likely lots of people who rely on you – and many of these people and projects you love to serve and support. And yet, sometimes, let’s be honest, you can feel like, “What about me? What about what I need? Who is taking care of me?”
Just uttering or thinking those words can feel so self-absorbed or selfish – and none of us want to be seen as selfish. So too often, you suppress voicing what you need, and you suffer and suffer, until you can’t take it anymore and then either blow up, become a martyr, or get sick.
For me, this last month I was SOOOO grateful that my soul partner was alive, that the man I loved so dearly hadn’t died, so how could it be that I had moments of not wanting to support him, but wanting someone to give to me? Shouldn’t I just suck it up and push through and take everything on, even if I had nothing more to give?
I knew from past experience that if took everything on myself, I would end up sick or worse full of resentment, or worse being passive aggressive (I really don’t like that passive aggressive tactic of trying to get what we need – it’s so harmful and really doesn’t work.)
I wanted to be able to just ASK FOR WHAT I NEEDED. No guilt. And believe that we both could be taken care of. Because that is what self-care is… making sure YOU get what you need… and I did, and I was.
But I had to first know what I needed, then I had to find the courage to ask, and then open up to receiving that support in whatever way the Divine wanted to deliver it to me (which wasn’t at all what I expected).
So self-love moment here… take a short but mighty pause…
WHAT DO YOU NEED THAT YOU AREN’T ASKING FOR??
And what is keeping you from asking for it??? Go deeper, and really be honest about WHY you believe you can’t ask for what you need.
And then… tune in to this self-love letter video…
Where I share a little more of what I experienced about WHY it’s so hard to ask for what we need AND then share with you the 3-step process I created to help you get what you need no matter what… without having to be selfish, but instead creating more love for yourself and the people and things you love.
Then dare to take a big stand for self-care and self-love for yourself by stating right here on this self love blog, what YOU NEED right NOW… and ONE ACTION you will take to make sure you get what you need no matter what, self-care!
When you can voice what you need, you are much more likely to receive what you need.
Voice it here, I’ll witness it and I know you will then take action to love yourself to it.
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