Self-Love Blog: Why Smart People Stay in Bad Relationships
Watch this self-love video to find the deeper answer to why people – why you — choose to stay in relationships and situations that are not respectful, that don’t honor your soul, heart and dreams.
While I could tell you that the reason we sell ourselves out and stay in non-honoring situations is because of our parents, our societal beliefs, the media, yada yada, I am not going to do that today. Not because those things don’t have an affect – of course they do. (if you’ve read my book Choosing ME before WE, you know I totally tried to re-create my parents dysfunctional relationship, until I starting growing my self respect and self honor branch of self love.)
But today I want to take you deeper, out of just your mind, into your heart and soul, out of your mind… because that is where we can make powerful shift, fast without having to spend 10 years talking about it. Self respect and self honor = taking actions that honor your soul and heart.
So take a moment and pause here… look around at your life – at your relationships, with partners, children, relatives, friends, co-workers, bosses, everyone… and notice, which of these relationships are not honoring you?
Some may be toxic, controlling, demeaning, abusive even, others may just be the WRONG situation… in any case, the relationship doesn’t honor or respect you, yet you stay. Why?
Watch this week’s Love Letter video to find out WHY we stay in situations that don’t honor ourselves and then choose one act of self love… why you have forgotten that you are sacred and how to never forget again.
Then Post here on the blog — WHAT ONE ACT WILL YOU TAKE EVERYDAY THIS WEEK TO REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE SACRED.
I’ve given you a few thoughts in the video. You may have your own. Post them here so you can hold yourself accountable to your self-love actions.
Think of your action like a ritual. Sacred things require ritual. You need simple sacred rituals to remind you everyday that you are sacred — you would never let a being you felt was sacred, a child, an animal, a friend stay in a dishonoring situation without attempting to help them. You deserve your love today!
AND IF YOU WANT SOME EXTRA LOVE AND SUPPORT IN YOUR STAND FOR SELF HONOR AND RESPECT, HERE IS A RITUAL I CREATED FOR YOU…
Very beautiful message – thank you so much for sharing!
Kam-B – your welcome, may you always remember and FEEL your sacredness. xoox
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Amanda – you can try it from my you tube Self Love Station — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjujEsbEPOc&feature=share&list=UUqLZQjhg84fK2XP_aB0XD1w
The act I will take everyday this week is journaling and beginning the 40 Day challenge so I can get the correct perspective on how I think about myself in the right place.
Ronnie – seeing you bravely opening your heart to receive the truth of your sacredness over these 40 days. with big heart, christine
Thanks Christine, wonderful blog and very inspiring. I will honor myself everyday by closing my eyes and taking deep breaths and holding my hands over my heart and repeating “I am sacred”. I am also releasing a negative relationship that has been holding me back. Thank you so much for all your love!! Xoxo ~Ariel
Ariel – you are sacred, i know that, have seen it with my own two eyes – and I LOVE your self honor practice -making self love, oh yeah! xoxo
Yes! This message has arrived at a good time for me. Thank you so much, Christine
Lesley your welcome! and may YOU always remember, you are sacred! xoxo
I am so happy to be a sacred being of light- thank you Christine, for the advice. I am using a daily gratitude journal and added an acknowledgement sentence and close my eyes to reflect on my most blissful sacredness for a minute or so!!! Ahhh, so replenishing.
Dianalynn – you are a sacred being of light!! i see you xxoxo Christine