Self Love Promise Meditation & Ceremony

 In Self Love, Self Worth, Transforming Your Life

Watch and listen to this video or download the audio and Take a ride through your relationship with yourself to find where you most need love this year, and then take a promise to give it to yourself.

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In honor of the international day of self love, on February 13th, I made this meditation and ceremony for you. Every February I invite people around the world to choose ONE branch of self love that they most need to grow (while all branches need our love and attention, there is usually one that is needing it the most)… and then make and take the promise using the words that you will need to be able to tell yourself in order to CHOOSE love for yourself over fear, guilt, shame, blame, criticism, stress, pressure in the moment, when it’s hard.

the self love treeSelf Care * Self Awareness & Self Honesty * Self Acceptance & Appreciation * Self Trust * Self Esteem * Self Compassion and Empowerment * Self Expression * Self Honor & Respect * Self Pleasure

For example, a few years ago my big branch for the year was self-pleasure, it was crying out for my attention (often times the branch your heart and soul need you to focus on growing differs from what your mind wants or things you should do.) While I LOVED my work – writing, teaching, speaking and traveling the world, I was working ALL the time, giving SO much away that my soul was literally starving for nourishment. I was starving for joy – for the simple things that I just loved because I was a girl, not because I was a writer or teacher. You know things like reading a book in one day… watching a romantic comedy… painting.

So I chose my branch, or it chose me, and I made THE PROMISE that I knew would help me stay committed to myself:

“NO matter how much work there is to do, I will always create space and find time for fun.”

Self love promises are like anchors that yank you back into alignment with love, when you are about to choose fear, lack, stress, etc. They come booming into your psyche like a best friends voice saying HEY WAIT! You promised me!!! These promises when taken during times when you are not under the duress of choosing non loving actions, cement themselves in your heart so you can stay true to yourself all year long. They act like mantras, you can say to yourself over and over again to give you the power to give yourself PERMISSION to do what your heart and soul know is right for you.

So this year, I ask you to CHOOSE YOUR BIG BRANCH of SELF LOVE
and share your self-love promise right here on the blog.

“I choose, insert branch . I promise, insert promise.”


I’ll be making art to share with the world throughout the year using the promises you post here so not only will your promise inspire YOU , it will have the power to inspire us all!  (like this promise that we all took in the Love Club earlier this year).

Here is my promise:

“I choose to grow the branch of self-expression big time! I promise to create art, no matter what.”  

And i just took my small but mighty first act – got an easel and will be painting on my birthday on Monday!

Now your turn… I showed you mine. Now you show me yours!  POST ON THE BLOG YOUR BRANCH AND PROMISE for this YEAR.

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  • Suzanne troll

    Christine, I loved the meditation and everything with the work you do. My tree branch for 2014 is self-expression through creativity. I am excited. Thank you for this opportunity to commit to
    Being self loving. Sincerely yours, Suzanne Troll

    • Christine Arylo

      Suzanne – woo hoo! my branch for this year is self expression too – i promise to create art – we can inspire each other. sending you much love xo

  • MJ

    Thank you for sharing the beautiful Valentine tree meditation, Christine!

  • Linda

    I promise to be self empowering. I will follow my dream and overcome all obstacles along the way

    • Christine Arylo

      Linda – your branch of self empowerment is going to grow, i can feel it – keep living your dreams xo

  • Deborah

    Thank you very much this is exactly what I needed today. I’ve been struggling for a few years since my divorce. I’m one of those older women has fallen to the cracks,With this poor economy and sometimes it’s hard to find self-love when you know that perhaps the best is behind you. I watch you often and I listen to you I read your words and it gives me hope. I think that is your gift to give hope. Thank you for that.deborah

    • Christine Arylo

      Deborah love your most welcome and as a good friend of my Shiloh Sophia once said, she too had the belief what if the best is already behind me — and then decided to change the story to what if the best is still to come! it worked for her and i invite you to try it to. with love xo

  • Lorene

    My 2014 Love Promise is to TRUST that who I am is enough and that God has given me talents that are to be SHARED around the world to empower women, financially!

    • Christine Arylo

      witnessed lorene! yes to TRUST that you are enough and that are here to share your gifts xo

  • Giannina

    I choose to grow the branch of self compassion and forgiveness
    I promise to love , accept and forgive myself before my inner critic start to judge what I’ve done or not.
    Now, I choose to be compassionate to myself no matter what!

    • Christine Arylo

      Giannina YOU ARE WITNESSED in your choice to choose compassion no matter what! xo

  • Genevieve

    I promise to have fun!

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