Please Stop Stressing Yourself Out! Find the pressure point you’re holding on yourself

 In Self Care, Self Compassion & Forgiveness, Self Worth, Transforming Negative Self Talk

Watch this video to find the ONE BIG GNARLY PRESSURE POINT you are holding on yourself and how you’re stressing yourself out! Then follow me through a process to release it.

Two days ago, sitting on a couch talking to one of my soul sisters, Christine Hassler, about this crazy pressure I was feeling even though I was sitting in one of the most serene beautiful places on earth 100 feet from the sea, I had a HUGE epiphany about what is causing you, me and every woman (and man) I know undo stress.

Stress that you literally have the ability to alleviate if you know where to look, how to find the pressure point causing you unnecessary pain, running that judgmental voice in your head who loves to push you and pressure you with words like…

“You should be doing more…”

“Why aren’t you…”

These two phrases alone I am sure are behind the wrinkles,the extra weight, the facts that 1 in 4 women will die of heart disease, twice as many women than men are on anti-depressants, or the reality that most of us feel overwhelmed and exhausted a lot of the time.

So in honor of the international day of women this month, I am saying ENOUGH to this I am not enough b.s. … I am saying NO to Not-Enoughness and this the Year of ENOUGHNESS.

Wanna join me?

Declare here, right now that You are enough. That you’ve done enough. That you don’t have to pressure yourself to do more? That there are other, more self-loving ways, to motivate yourself?

Good! Now that we have that cleared up, What do you do???

Well you start by watching this week’s love letter… I will run you through the short but mighty process I used to identify the big gnarly pressure point causing undue stress on me, and show you how to find your gnarly unnecessary pressure point and release it.

 

Then, here on the blog, release the pressure point by

1. Saying how you are putting this pressure on yourself.

2. Telling the truth AND then

3. Take a stand for being and doing enough right now (in caps!) I will witness you, as if you are right here with me on the couch – making this a year of ENOUGHNESS!

Here I will go first.

I am putting pressure on myself to be out in the world speaking right now. The truth is that I am exactly where I need to be, writing at the sea and talking to people through the internet and phone right now. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Okay your turn…

I am putting pressure on myself to…
The truth is…
I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Whoo hoo!! Can’t wait to high five you and your post.

 

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  • Sonja
    Reply

    Thank you Christine, you are enough and you are awesome! Here I go!
    I am putting pressure on myself to figure out what exactly my dream job would be and to start doing it as soon as possible (feels more like yesterday).
    The truth is I am finally on self-love and self-acceptance journey, allowing myself to stop and ask myself What do I really want instead of living in survival mode for the rest of my life.
    I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Sonja to choosing self love mode vs survival mode – and YES YOU ARE ENOUGH right now! xo

  • Julia
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself by trying to do tones of training and read numerous self-development materials now. The truth is that I am exactly where I need to be, having wonderful vacation and taking slow pace in order digest and figure out my next steps. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Julia – stop stuffing it all in – makes it way too hard to digest – savor the growth, not push your way through it xo

  • Posey
    Reply

    Thank-you so much Christine, for your enlightening video about being enough. In the past, I’ve taken on so much, teetering on the brink of burn-out. Finally, my body said enough already! I crashed and burned a few months ago, adrenal exhaustion, and all the goes along with it. I’ve had to back away from some contract work and other extra-curriculars, and time my meals so that I won’t have low blood sugar and pass out. I’m doing the bare minimum, teaching 4 classes at the local university, which in itself is still a lot. But I’m managing, with a focus on self-care. I have been feeling guilt for not being able to do the other things that I had committed to. And those people are bugging me about when I can come back. They are stressing me out. I have been feeling guilt about letting others down, but I had actually let myself down, by not taking care, not setting boundaries, and most of all not loving my body and listening to what it needs.
    I so needed to hear your message, that I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW, and I AM ENOUGH. xo

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Posey – you are so not alone this happens to so many women – honoring your stand for self care and enoughness now – knowing you are doing enough and now is the time to get to the root of what has driven you so hard and heal that with love. xo

  • Marcia
    Reply

    I AM doing the best I can and that IS enough!

  • Sarahi
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to study a specialty, and let go my ex boyfriend, the truth is i am taking care of me and learning to love me so i can take better choices, i am doing enough right now, i am enough.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Sarahi – you are doing enough rightnow – and yes yes to letting even more love in! xox

  • Catherine
    Reply

    Thank you so much. We learned this past year that my son has aspergers, and I have been beating myself up for my lack of parenting skills and failing to push my freelancing life forward. From here on in I am using and believing he mantra “Doing the very best I can with what I’ve got is all the enough I need.”

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Catherine to embracing that mantra with all your heart – because it is true you are doing the best you can and its’ enough xo

  • Karen
    Reply

    I am constantly day in day out beating myself up about not having a job/career……This is a really hard SHOULD!….. I am going to try and find some enjoyable voluntary work

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      YEs Karen to stop shoulding on yourself and starting find the JOY in what you have right now -that will create more of what you are looking for. xo

  • Lizzy B
    Reply

    Oh my goodness you are the voice of Reason right now. I’ve been in serious stress and overwhelm while I look for a job and no wonder I’ve gained a little weight which of course gets even more judgment going… it’s a vicious cycle! I feel like I popped myself out of it enough to be able to hear this video which gave me chills and tears, and I had a hard time talking to myself like a best friend about the job thing so I am working on that one. But one thing I can do to take the pressure off is to look on a certain job board for a certain type of job that I heard about recently, and apply to the ones that I find. And keep my focus on what jobs I would love to do, put up affirmations around my home to keep me positively focused, and make sure to apply to at least one or two jobs per day. Thank you!!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Lizzy YES to you taking the pressure off – and i am knowing the weight will follow the pressure. And your happiness will grow! xo to you

  • Karen
    Reply

    I am enough . I have been through enough stress these past few years. I have place to find to live. And I am coming through a bad spell where I didnt even want to be here. So cherishing good moments is enough

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Karen – YES to love being enough. And you being enough. You are love. You are loved xo

  • UPAASNA SUHAIL
    Reply

    Was on a total low wishing i could end it all,thank you for the Love and Contribution you are.GODBLESS

  • Silvia
    Reply

    Thank you so much something i really needed to hear at the moment even though it is hard to let it drop in children and life can be very very demanding….

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Silvia the demands are always there -and it’s you counting on choosing YOU – let the pressure not the kids drop ๐Ÿ™‚ and remember you are doing the best you can xo

  • Mariana
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to contact more people, to communicate more (I am introvert),to do more to do better. And I am here, reading writing and practicing right now. I am doing enough right now. I am enough.

  • Tatiana Pluma
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to fix a broken relationship. The truth is I am more than OK with just being friends. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH!!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Tatiana – yes to releasing that presssure so you can really let in the self love! you are enough right now.

  • Elsie
    Reply

    Yes!!! Sitting here in my recliner chair,nice packs on pulled ligaments in my leg and I was stewing over falling behind in the two art classes I’m taking, my house is dirty and a mess and my mean girls are yelling about house guests arriving next month ……yes! I am enough, my greatest need to to rest, ice my injuries, heal and enjoy the love of my soul mate/hubby’s love and care. Some how what really needs to get done will happen and right now I am fully here, where I need to be, healing, and opening my hand and heart to love that is being shown to me….time to empty the trash of Not Enough! I am ENOUGH!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes love indeed you are ENOUGH – and I say ask the fairies to help you ๐Ÿ™‚ they are great at manifesting peeps to clean that house magically! xo

  • Elsie
    Reply

    BTW, the red URL above for join the love club. Com did not work…but, hey, I’m in!!! LOL!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      thanks elsie – got it fixed and so happy to have you in the love club!! xoxo

  • Sandy G.
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself toโ€ฆheal from cancer treatment and have more energy.
    The truth isโ€ฆmy body and spirit are healing as fast as they can, and there’s no rushing this process.
    I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Sandy – YES to you choosing compasison and care for yourself over pressure love. YOu are doing enough and doing the exact thing right for you, healing. and healing is enough to do. xo

  • Linda Jones
    Reply

    I place a lot of pressure on myself because of my very high standards. Thank you for sharing in the video that judgement of ourselves is key to our overall outlook and attitude towards loving ourselves.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      LInda – you are welcome love – and yes those high standards – watch next weeks love letter – i am going to talk about just that! xo

  • Naomi Bergner
    Reply

    Thanks for this. Much needed today!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Naomi – you are welcome. love to you releasing the pressure. xo

  • Sofia
    Reply

    I was just talking to my 23 year old daughter this morning about the pressure i put on myself unnecessarily. I am compulsive about my to do list. If it is on my plate i need to do it now! This is not true. Work, taxes, airplane flights are timely responsibilities. Everything else can wait til later. I am enough.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Sofia to not trying to eat/do everythign on the plate at the same time – makes indigestion of the soul ๐Ÿ™‚ YOu have done enough. And let divine timing show you one by one which ones to do and which ones to save to savor for the next day xo

  • Sandy
    Reply

    Thanks for this great message, Christine! I am putting pressure on myself right now to have a perfectly clean and organized house AND start a new business AND get all my paperwork and our taxes done AND find time to exercise AND get healthy and recover from a long illness AND a million other things! No WONDER I am exhausted! The truth is that I am in the right place right now finally starting to feel better after a year of illness, and the good news is that as I feel better and better physically I will be able to accomplish more and more…so at every step of the way I am doing exactly the right thing by taking care of myself first. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      LOL Sandy sister achievement junkie – that is sure alot of ANDS – and i get it !! Yes to erasing the ends and to you doing enough already. Ahhhh … xo

  • Heba
    Reply

    I love you Christine.
    My heart said: (be gentle with yourself. you’re enough ,you’ve done enough .evolve from love not from fear,I love you ,honey.)
    Thank you my beloved.

  • Margaret
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to do enough to fulfill at least the bare minimums: hygiene, adequate eating, sleeping, and exercising and creative pursuits.
    The truth is THERE IS A LOT ON MY PLATE RIGHT NOW. And a whole lot of love is felt by those around me coming from [or through] me.
    I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH. [My husband suggested I take off the maybe]

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      LOL Margaret – I agree with hubby to take off the maybe – feeling you choosing to FEEL enough! xox

  • Carol
    Reply

    I AM ENOUGH! I watched the video and I agree. I will finish the book I started and stop putting it off for other ridiculous, non-important things. Thank you so much for reminding me.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Carol your welcome! And yes to you being enough right now to finish that book and you are in the perfect place already -motivate yourself from a place of enoughness and shine! xo

  • Kelly Davies
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself on myself to get back out into the world working any job to pay off my debts and arrears, spending as much time as I can with others at the same time as studying Angel Therapy/Angel Class Teacher Healing Diplomas and working on my own self-love, spiritual and fun/work/life balance journey.
    The truth is that for the first time in my life I am happy having taken a 8-month life sabbatical to let go of my past hurts, abuses, angers, victim-ship and all other things that I resisted knowing about myself in my life. Yes I have big dreams, yes I have things in my life that I desire to explore further which requires funds, focus and dedication and none of that is going to be possible without this much-needed time of self-discovery and surrender!
    I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Kelly what a powerful act of love and divine trust to heal yourself so you can be of even more service to the world, and have more joy – yes, ENOUGH! xo

  • Alisa
    Reply

    I AM PUTTING MYSELF OUT IN THE WORLD SAYING I AM ENOUGH.
    Even though I feel what I am doing is enough. I may have to write this 100 times!
    I AM ENOUGH.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Alisa -yes i think wriitng it 1000x time for all of us would be powerful – maybe we should graffti the world with i AM ENOUGH love-graffiti – i am on my way to NYC in April, maybe i bring some spray paint ๐Ÿ™‚ xo

  • Faith
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to find a job and to study. The truth I am searching very hard and studying very hard.

    I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Faith – you are doing enough love – and instead of having search hard and study hard – how about you are devoted to your job search and studies. Less hard. More love xo

  • Deb
    Reply

    I am still constantly amazed at how when I am struggling with something in particular, the message I need to hear somehow shows up! I really needed to hear this!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Deb happy to be a messenger from the divine – may love always find you when you need it and then some! xo

  • michal
    Reply

    hay christine !
    thanx for lightning up the judgment that take so much place & energy
    im ENOUGH even i get fire from work the way i want it to be coss now ill be able to do only what i love to do im ENOUGH even im in bed with cold body worming & loving my self as you teach me us self love is the best cure ..
    much love michal<3

  • April
    Reply

    Thank you for this video Christine.. looks like a lovely spot! I am putting SO much pressure on myself to find musicians to play with. As a new mom in a new rural area it is a challenge to get out and meet people to play with. When I know this is the main dream I want to attain (rocking multiple houses on a regular basis) I feel like a failure if I’m not doing it RIGHT NOW. What’s true is my baby is 18 months old and he takes a huge percentage of my life force.. and it’s supposed to be that way. I hear that’s normal for early parenthood. Being his mom and reaching out to people when I can, going to see music when I can and get a lay of the land and feel for the area is ENOUGH. Anything worth doing takes time. I am tired of comparing myself to other singers and feeling I am behind. I am on my OWN path which has it’s own perfect timing. What I’m doing is enough and I trust myself to keep doing it.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      April love – sooo witnessing you taking a stand to stop pressuring yourself and start loving yourself even more xo

  • Emilia
    Reply

    Hi Christine & Love Club peeps!
    So picking one of the many ways I put pressure on myself is too much pressure! ACK! JK ๐Ÿ˜‰ Seriously though, when you said that, Christine, my immediate answer was “everywhere” (bah humbug). Lately, career has been a definitive focus, b/c, well, I go to the j-o-b everyday & I wonder what the heck I’m doing there. I have some things in the works, so to speak, but I also feel like it’s a good possibility that I’m spinning my wheels WHERE I’m working on putting some of these things to work. So, I’m pressuring myself that I “SHOULD” know where I’m going, how I’m getting there, and so on. (I feel just a little dirty for “should’ing” on myself so much! hehe)
    And much as the absolutely fantabulous Christine Hassler told you “you are right where you need to be, doing what you need to be doing”, I realize that I am in a discovery mode. I’m pursuing my passion for learning & (gasp!) I’m learning more about what I want to do, where I want to put my energy, and who I want to help & *why.
    So darn-it-all, I AM ENOUGH! ;^} I’m a friggin’ ROCKSTAR, man! haha…and I AM doing enough…just for me… :^D

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Emilia – YES LOVE YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! and i my love witness that – you are the cutest ever! may you remember and honor yourself always xoox

  • Mara
    Reply

    I am putting pressure on myself to make my grandpa a handmade card by Thursday & learn how to play Happy Birthday on the piano by Saturday. On a larger scale, I’m putting pressure on myself to meet my beloved and get married & have kids & be super responsible about everything in my life.

    The truth is my grandpa will be totally fine if I get him the card late – or I don’t do as excellent a job as I normally do. The truth is my piano teacher didn’t give me enough time to learn Happy Birthday & my grandpa will be just as happy if I play other things that I’ve already learned. The truth is I was the one who decided that I had to learn how to play Happy Birthday for my grandpa’s 92nd birthday, the truth is he just wanted to hear me play something, anything. The truth is I can’t control when I meet my soulmate, all I can do is enjoy life & be open to men who seem like they could be my soulmate & not settle for guys who make me sad every time I see them.

    I TAKE A STAND FOR ME. I AM ENOUGH JUST AS I AM. I DON’T HAVE TO LEARN A SONG IN LESS THAN 2 WEEKS WHEN I ONLY STARTED PIANO FOR THE FIRST TIME A FEW MONTHS AGO. AND THE LESS I STRESS OVER MY LOVE LIFE, THE MORE LIKELY IT IS I WILL A LOVE LIFE. SO I TAKE A STAND TO STOP STRESSING SO MUCH OVER MY LOVE LIFE (OR LACK THERE OF).

    Thank you Christine! Your blog is awesome & so helpful! YOU are awesome & so helpful!
    -Mara

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Mara – yes you are enough and your love is quite enough for your gpa! xox

  • L2
    Reply

    I am stressing out over a relationship. I am stressing out over how I look. I’ve lost weight ( I’m vintage) and my skin looks wobbly BUT I am working out and doing the best I can and that is enough!

  • Genevieve
    Reply

    I AM ENOUGH. I AM DOING ENOUGH. RIGHT NOW!

    So I will stop going through old emails from the past few months when I was and Go To Bed… knowing that all the self-love videos will be there for me another day! Good night!

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