Self Love Promise: Never Settle for Less than Your Heart and Soul Desire

 In Self Empowerment, Self Expression, Transforming Your Life

One of the five foundational self love promises is to NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEART AND SOUL DESIRE… are you keeping this promise to yourself?

Watch this video and press pause on the outside world to tune into your inner world and do a check in with your heart.

Most of us never slow down enough to truly tune into our hearts so we have no idea what it truly desires. And sometimes when we do know what it desires we are too scared to actually admit that we desire it. We feel selfish, like it’s too much. Or we feel like it’s impossible or impractical so we just stuff the desire down and get on with our rational lives, settling for less than our heart desire, and in the process letting ourselves down, which is so not self-loving.

The self-love truth is that if you can FEEL it in your heart, then desiring it can only be a good thing that creates more goodness and more love for the world. Even if it’s big. Even if it seems a lot. Even if other people have judgments about it.

The test is to make sure the desire truly comes from your heart and soul, and not your ego, which NEEDS and WANTS things to make you feel safe, enough and like you belong.

How do you do name and claim your heart desire?

Well to start…

1. Watch the video and listen to your heart – and let my words touch your heart, and then listen to what it tells you – you may be surprised!

2. Two, when you state your desire out loud and write it down so you can see it use the words “I DESIRE” instead of I WANT –
want denotes lack, like you are not whole without this thing. And when acting in alignment with your heart, you’ve got to do it from a place of you are whole already. For example, saying “I want to be famous” (ego) is different than “I desire to shine as bright as I can, to be the star I am, so that my love and expression can light up this world. I desire to be a shining star whose light people from around the world see and are inspired by.” Or saying, “I want a soul mate so I can be loved” is saying that you are not loved already, which you are. Instead, you may very well desire a partner to share your life with, so “I desire a partner to share my full life with” denotes you already know your life is full before he/she shows up.

And…

3. After you watch this video – claim your current heart’s desire… then EXCLAIM in here, right here on the self-love blog… I will be here to witness it and you and fill it up with the love and light of the full moon!

Me first…
“My heart and soul SO desire to create a fabulous, inspiring line of self-love clothing that millions of people around the world put on their body that reminds them every time they wear it that they are SOOOOOO loved.”

Okay your turn… post it here… and then keep your self love promise to open your heart to receive it. You don’t need to know how or when, you just have to be open to receive the love in whatever expression the divine has in store for you.

 

To learn more about being true to yourself read my book: Madly in Love with ME: The Daring adventure of becoming your own best friend!

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  • mary
    Reply

    I Desire to open up my heart more by shining my light out into the world and inspire others to shine their light out too. Thank you so much, Christine.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Yes Mary to you shining shining and shining more – seeing your heart set free to be free to shine freely and fully as you!!! xoxoox

  • Carlina
    Reply

    My heart and soul desire to travel to Ecuador and Paraguay to visit my family!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Carlina – seeing you and your heart embraced by the love of your family. keep feeling them with you. xoxoxo

  • Elisa
    Reply

    I desire to visit Hawaii.
    I now know of so many wonderful inspiring people that live or have lived there and I desire to meet them. Stanley Ihaleakala Hew Len, the man who told the world about ho’oponopono, Mrs Takata, the woman by whom reiki was known in the western world, Graham Nash, the famous singer from CSN… All of them have brough so much to my life that I desire to get a chance to meet them and share my love with them.
    I live in France and Hawaii is a long and possibly expensive trip. But I’m turning thirty this November, and it would be such a “coming of wise age” gift to be able to go there… So if you beautiful people can help me in any way… Feel free to stand up !

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Elisa seeing the hand and heart of Hawaii reach across the oceans and lands to make your journey there gracefull in right time and right way. and so it is xxo

  • Veronica
    Reply

    I desire a soul partner to share my life with. A partner I can learn from and grown with and experience divine love in its highest form with.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Veronica – seeing your beautiful light radiate with love knowing your own wholeness and knowing your own heart and in that knowingness and promise to never settle, seeing soul mates and a soul partner walk with you on this journey of life. you are loved. xoo

  • Zanni
    Reply

    I AM living, loving, laughing, dancing, connecting and shining in Hawaii and expressing who I am, supported in all ways by Beloved Hawaii and the Universe!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Zanni – seeing your beautiful light shine through the waters and sky of Hawaii, a beautiful emanation of divine love. be free love be free to be you xox

  • Melinda Harlow
    Reply

    My heart and soul TRULY DESIRE to travel the world with my husband and children, focusing primarily on being an amazing wife and mom (and daughter/sister/friend) – BUT ALSO fully ENJOYING each place we visit, and using this fullest enjoyment to help inspire others that they can live their dreams too – no matter how BIG. :-)))))

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Melinda – feeling the daring you asking for what you desire without holding back – yahoo!!! keep expanding, keep seeing and keep open to the form it all takes, i can feel you love and honor you sweet one for your willingness to live life fully. xooxoxo

  • suzi
    Reply

    You are so awesome, Christine. Your energy is infectious!! Thank you for writing these blogs 🙂

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Suzi – thank you love – feeling your love and thank YOU for showing up in love for yourself to receive these messages of self love. may you feel the love around you always. xoxo

  • Gail
    Reply

    My desire is to be having fun w lots of soul/ kindred spirit friends!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Hot dog Gail! If the divine could dance, i think it just did a jig for your desire. yes yes to your heart and soul having fun, lots of it – joy joy joy. xo

  • Kathleen Busby
    Reply

    I desire is to heal physically, mentally,emotionally and spiritually so I can help and lead others to do the same.
    I desire to be with a partner to share my life with that we share love, life and expression.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Kathleen seeing and witnessing your wholeness right now and that your heart desire to see that wholeness manifest more fully is a big YES from the divine. Keep feeling your wholeness and remembering that you are whole and complete within yourself first. xox

  • Nanette
    Reply

    Yes, Yes, Yes! I am crazy busy and this is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Nanette – thank you love for pausing to tune into your heart – to turn off the busy so you could hear yourself. your most welcome love. xo

  • Katharine
    Reply

    With my whole heart and spirit I desire to become truly skilled and intuitive as a harpist/harper, using harp therapy and music to support people in the process of dying well, feeling well and getting well and to bring enchantment xxx

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Katherine love, hearing your music touch peoples souls and hearts and knowing your angelic self is ready and willing to be that guide through the sweet song of your heart and harp. and so it is. xoxo

  • Doly
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    My heart and soul desire to be FULL in Love with me and with a partner, and that my partner also is FULL in Love with me and with himself. We both are complete already, but we share our completeness in FULL Freedom and Enjoyment.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Doly seeing and witness your desire for FULL love in all ways – may your life and your being truly be wealthy in love and may you receive that love wealth fully. xoxo

  • Isabelle
    Reply

    Dear Christine,
    This is my first comment on your wonderful blog. Your video was so inspiring!
    Two things surfaced for me: the first is a dream I have been carrying in my heart for years: to open a Yoga and Art Studio for women and young girls, where yoga classed and intentional creativity painting workshops as well as expressive mandalas and SoulCollage workshops would be offered. That it becomes a place for a community of women who have a desire to heal, dance, experiment and fully claim their power and celebrate their beauty could gather.
    Then something else came up that took me by surprise: to continue to study with my Teacher, Maestra Shiloh Sophia. She has such wisdom and depth and love and an overflowing heart… I feel that I have still so much to learn from this wonderful inspiring woman.
    In Trust and with an open heart,
    Isabelle

    • Christine Arylo
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      Isabelle – welcome and so happy to have you post here and share your desire! I was just with Shiloh yesterday and will see her again tomorrow – may her light continue to reflect the LIGHT THAT IS IN YOU and may you remember that your dreams to share such love is already there, just start where you are, even with 2 people. Where two or more are gathered…. witnessing you love xoxo

  • maria starr
    Reply

    I so desire an incredible magical relationship with my soul mate,, man who is perfect for me in every way and to share our love and light and radiate it out together in the world!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Maria – seeing your heart open to receive MANY soul mates and to open to receive a soul PARTNER who may share with you deeply to radiate love in the world. Keep being you and keep that beautiful heart open to all love. xox

  • Barbara
    Reply

    What I really desire: I want to live in Europe (Austria, Germany) again, being in a loving relationship with my husband and my two daughters and also I want to have my own business working with women and having space and an open container to receive abundance to follow my ambitions as a writer.

  • Angie
    Reply

    I desire to write my conscious Parenting book and fill it with all my knowledge and wisdom and experiences. With all the love in my heart I desire to take this to the world as a writer, speaker, sharer of the love for parenting…..and enable millions of parents to remember their purpose and understand how blessed they are that out of all the 7 billion people in the world their child chose them…..woohoo!!!!!!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Angie – seeing you as a harbinger of love for children and parents everywhere – keep sharing your wisdom from love and may that information and love flow freely. and so it is. xo

  • Deanna
    Reply

    My heart and soul desire is to use my special and unique talents to add value to the world. My true desire is to be an inspirational Life Coach and help others live their lives as the best versions of themselves. Together we can make this world is a much better place for all.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Deanna – knowing that you are already that and that in your continued expression of self to be the guide you are, doors will continue to open for you to manifest your desires into more and more form. xo

  • Barbara
    Reply

    What I deeply desire is to go back to Europe (Austria, Germany) and live in a loving relationship with my husband and my two daughters. I want to fully live my dream of working with women on passion, lust and sexuality and at the same time I would love to be an open container to receive abundance and have the space and freedom to fulfill my passion of writing.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      barbara – witness love your desire to be and be surrounded in love. may it be so. xoo

  • Joy ( Tinley Park )
    Reply

    My heart & soul desires to move through this world creating and delivering Singing Telegrams that Validate Appreciate Congratulate & Celebrate people…so they feel valued & known.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Joy – hi love!! seeing and knowing you to be a vessel of love with so much to sing freely from your heart – keep coming back to that desire in your heart — and let the LOVE-o-Grams flow. i am feeling an entirely new service here that brings together the singing telegrams of the past with the desire people have to give love to others – instead of flower they send you – or you + flowers!! xoxox

  • Jennifer
    Reply

    I desire to reconnect with myself, after so much loss and so many life changes, so that I can reignite the spark of my heart’s desire, or light a fire for a new vision. I desire to find out what I want my future to be now that my present is different than expected. I desire to be open to new dreams and possibilities, while letting go of fear.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Jennifer – witness you desire love and knowing your heart and soul are right there ready for you to embrace deeply,xoxo

  • Vanessa
    Reply

    This was beautiful and YOU are beautiful. I hardly ever leave comments on blogs but I just felt to say thank you, and to give a big cheer to you living your dream. Your message is so real and so heartfelt and boy, would I have loved to be one of those 18 women, especially with that infinity pool and Italian food galore! Love and blessings to you. This full moon was a whopper for me, and I think I might just do some journalling on the theme you spoke about. Much love, Vanessa x

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Vanessa – thank you love! I can feel your love through the post – next year Italy?? And so glad you received the love coming through from the post and that you are opening your heart to desires!! xoxoxo

  • Sandra
    Reply

    I desire change…to stepping forward into a new life that is filled with wonder, nuturing, joy and love and stepping out of a life of expectation, anxiety and worry. And to live my dreams fully and completely.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Sandra – witnessing your hand reaching out to the divine to say YES to shift and opening up to receive more wonder, joy and love – yes yes yes! XOXO

  • Sandra
    Reply

    I desire to be an inspirational spark for people to choose Reiki practice as a component to their daily self care.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Sandra – seeing your spark light up the world and the hearts and bodies of everyone you come into contact with. Like a reiki fire fly may they come and find you. xoxo

  • Monika
    Reply

    My heart and soul so desire to live and work in the most beautiful, inspiring atelier HE ART of FASHION with the most beautiful garden around and an open view on the sunny beach with crystal clear water where dolphins swim and birds are singing.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Monika, witnessed love – feeling and hearing those birds and joyfull creatures as your heart opens to you receiving this space and place to create. xo

  • Lili McLean
    Reply

    I desire to have a wonderful fulfilling supportive passionate relationship with my partner
    I desire and want to raise happy, successful, loving confident children
    I desire it discover and have work that fulfills my soul and helps others and provides me with financial security
    I desire to become fit and strong and confident! I beam of light and love! Walk strong and tall and attract love.
    I desire to get through this very painful and unpacker train year with peace, confidence , faith and feel loved and clear on my path!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      lili love, witnessing and loving on your desires, feeling the love for YOU in each one. xo

  • Marcia
    Reply

    I desire an art studio.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Marcia – yes to your art studio and to add a little energy to your desire, what will you do with this desire, and art studio where I …. feeling it and feeling it’s purpose can help you receive it in form. Yay art!! yay you expressing you xoo

  • Susan E Fox
    Reply

    I desire to create and draw with the Dalai Lama in an expressive way!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Well hot dog Susan – that is a fabulous desire! feeling your heart leading the way. xoxo

  • Tammy Rothwell
    Reply

    I desire to live in service by leading sunrise meditation, doing yoga, helping speakers and myself to teach many how to be in their happiness, fully engaged and surrendering to now with passion and spark! In Hawaii and around the world! I desire a delicious, loving, kind, funny man next to me in work and play. Supporting himself and I, loving me and himself, linked in spirit!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Tammy – feeling the joy and the freedom and the love in this desire, keep feeling those things to create the space to allow this desire to manifest in form. and so it is! xoxo

  • Alison Granny Duke
    Reply

    Thank You Christine,
    You reminded me of my already written Art Exhibition Dream. I took out my Planning book and Wrote I desire this. I will continue to paint in expectation of this becoming a reality.
    God Bless You.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Alison – YES to watching this dream continue to unfold into reality and desiring it for yourself without apology xoxo

  • Constance
    Reply

    Help! I don’t think I have ever had a real desire for myself! I early rejected any idea of a “career” and have just drifted pretty much where the men in my life have taken me. Probably doesn’t help that I am an alcoholic and addict, almost 28 years clean and sober. How to FIND that desire, and then put it into words?

    much love,

    connie

    • Christine Arylo
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      Connie love – you start with connecting deeply to your own heart and asking the question, What do I desire? Keep asking it every day until you get an answer. Try a 40 day journal practice where you write the question out and draw or write a response. Or go for desire walks and see what your inner wisdom shows you. Start where you are -you aren’t alone in having this experience. Sounds like in the past you were looking outside for what can only be found inside and now look IN. (also if you haven’t read my book Choosing Me before WE, it’s another great place to start, full of lots of inquiries” xoxoo

  • Joanna
    Reply

    I desire to feel the love that flows so freely in my body. I desire to access my inner wisdom that knows exactly what I need to feel cared for and loved and to remember to trust myself… And I desire to wear clothing and accessories that supports me in this process 🙂

    • Christine Arylo
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      Joanna – seeing your body receiving the love in all ways that it desires. xo

  • Genevieve
    Reply

    One desire of my heart and soul is to own land where I can live, grow delicious organic foods and care for playful frolicking goats! This goes back to when I was 4 years old and when my Grandma asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up I said, “A Vegetarian Cowgirl”! =)

    • Christine Arylo
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      Genevieve – yes to that desire! I am sitting at my friends home/ranch in California right now who had a similar dream when she was a little girl, and now she is receiving it. xo to the vegeterian cowgirl! xoxo

  • Mathesy
    Reply

    You are full of fire! So passionate!!! And inspiring 🙂

  • Claire
    Reply

    I desire to become a Kundalini Yoga and Meditation Teacher and I am open to receiving this for myself. I desire to help and heal others. Christine, your video message brought up so much emotion in me… I had to watch it again! Thank you so much for the love and the divine sparks from the heart that you send. With love and light x

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Claire – so happy you opened your heart to receive the message and I am witnessing your self love stand to receive what your heart desires. xoxox

  • Becky M
    Reply

    I Desire to live in Sedona and heal emotionally and physically and surround myself with loving individuals.

  • nadene
    Reply

    I desire to show and sell my art work

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      And so it is love… one piece at a time! your art work creates more love in the world, remember that. xoxox

  • Val
    Reply

    I desire a loving, soul partner to share my life that is already abundant and overflowing with love. Together, we will radiate our love to the Universe. Thank you God!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      heard. witnessed. and asking you val to keep opening your heart to love and witnessing it from yourself, from the divine and feeling the partnership there first. you are loved. lovable. xoxo

  • Shaunna
    Reply

    Christine,
    Your video really inspired me, again, and so I am taking a chance and am reaching out. I desire to become a Self-love coach… to not only be madly in love with myself but to inspire and reach out to others as you do. I was wondering if you would be willing to give me some advice on how to get started on this journey and if you’d be willing to take on students.

    With Love,

    Shaunna

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      HI Shauna!! thank you love for reaching out again – yes yes and yes – 2015 we will be offering guidance on self love coaching and would LOVE to have you! and also are you a love ambassador – you can sign up for free at http://www.JoinTeamLove.com so that you are in the loop for Feb 13th. Melissa from my team will reach out to you and connect as well – she is the program director for the self love guides 🙂 so happy to be connecting ! xoxo

  • cyntia
    Reply

    Hi. i just saw this video and it has filled my heart with joy since i am about to believe that what i desire is not so important. it is though!and i have a right to desire. i desire love. i desire a man that wants to build a home with me. a man that loves talking and listening. a man that loves sex. quality sex. a man that loves holding my hand. a man that understands that sometimes all i need is his arms around me with no questions asked. a man that can be able to be loved and treated like a king cuz that is really what i want. the king. the one and only.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Cyntia -witnessing you surrendering the belief that what you want is not important and in the process opening up your heart to receive MORE LOVE in partnership. I feel like you are on the Great Mothers lap just pouring out your desires, no holding back, and she is listening. with love, xoox

  • Rosanna
    Reply

    I desire a man who is kind and strong, someone to share the beauty of life together, someone to rise above all odds together, someone to share our dreams together and support each other. Someone to travel the world with and experience the glory of the world together. Someone to have fun with, someone as positive and spiritual about life as I am. Someone to learn with and become better persons each day together. Someone to serve the good of the world together. Someone who sees me for who I am. Thank you, Divine Mother, for granting this desire. And thank you to Christine for guiding me in this journey =) much love to you!

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      Rosanna – witnessing you love in your open heart to receive the LOVE and partnership you desire, starting of course with the love and partnership you give to yourself. much love xoxo

  • LeSheena
    Reply

    My heart desire is to get my doctorate in education then work with children and teach them the Word of God and build a school to help children learn. I also want to own a group home for pregnant teens.

    • Christine Arylo
      Reply

      LaSheena – i see the hand of the divine coming to co create this with you — remember you do not have to do it all, just keep listening for your part and opening to others who have a similar soul and heart path. xoxox

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